What is a hand kink

Everybody has the kinks that turn them on like nothing else. And that’s okay! Until and unless your fetishes are not offensive or derogatory, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having specific kinks. There are people with so many different fetishes, some who have a thing for feet, some for asses, and there some whose kink is in hands. Quirofilia or hand fetishism is a thing. Is that your kink too? And are you not sure what to do and how to proceed with your partner to satiate this kink? Well then, don’t worry because we have just everything you would need to know about hand kink to help you out.

What Exactly Is Quirofilia?

Quirofilia is a type of sexual fetish for hands. And the attraction doesn’t necessarily involve the whole hand, it could also be a particular part of the hand like the palms, fingers, fingers, etc. It could also be a sexual attraction towards a specific action performed by the hands and at times, this action that is being performed is very likely to be non-sexual. But, oh well, a kink is a kink after all. Although it is not that common in the area of fetishes, it is completely normal to fetish hands. 

How Does a Hand Kink Work? 

As Quirofilia involves a sexual attraction towards hands and/or a part of it, there are various ways wherein this kink is quite commonly expressed. So, find out which way you prefer the most or which one suits your style in the bedroom the best:

1. Fingering 

Hand fetishism is often expressed with this act of sex because it involves the use of fingers to stimulate a woman’s vagina. So if your major turn-on involves hands, having your partner finger you is one of the best ways to fulfill this kink. And this is a low-risk and safe way too. 

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It might sound weird but only the ones with quirofilia how hot it is to suck your partner’s fingers. Here are a couple of ways to do this in the bedroom without making it weird: If you’re making out with your partner or kissing them, then slowly grab the hand with which they are cupping your face or cheek while kissing you, and softly lick or suck their finger. Or if you like no boundaries in the bedroom, then you could suck your partner’s fingers after they finger you. That is a great way to heat things and it also makes it quite intimate for the both of you. 

3. Handjobs 

This is yet another common way that is great for satisfying hand kink. This is because a handjob involves using your hands to stroke your partner’s penis. And for someone with a hand fetish, this is just the right way to spice things up and turn on the heat with their partner. 

4. Palm Licking

Just like finger-licking, this is also a way to satiate quirofilia and involves caressing and licking your partner’s palms and even fingertips. 

How to Carry Out Quirofilia in the Bedroom? 

Now, onto the more important part about how to use these ways of satiating hand fetishes in the bedroom. Take a look at the following tips and ways that will help you to do that: 

1. Talk to Your Partner

This is the first and the foremost rule in carrying out any kind of sexual act, be it foreplay, kinks, or intercourse. Communicate with your partner and let them know about your preferences, turn-ons, turn-offs, and kinks (if you have any) and have them share the same with you too. This way, you both would be aware of your likes and dislikes which will only make it easier for you both to indulge in sexual activities without much hesitation and weirdness.

The more open and vocal you are with your partner and vice versa, the better it is for both of you in the bedroom. Refrain from doing anything that makes your partner uncomfortable or weird. And don’t force or push your partner to do it just because you like. Instead of that, reach a common ground or simply don’t do that thing because if you don’t prefer doing something in the bedroom but your partner does, you wouldn’t want to be forced into liking it either. 

2. Get Adventurous

Explore and try out new things, styles, and even sex toys because all that will lead you to find out your comfort zone and what exactly suits your needs the most. And that can be helpful in the bedroom. 

3. Timing Matters

Include hand kinks in foreplay and see how your partner likes it. Also, picking the right time to carry that out is equally important because if you pick the right moment where you’re both hot and heavy to do something like licking or sucking their fingers, then you might just make it hotter and they might end up liking it. But if you’re kissing your partner and you suddenly stop them to do something like this then they might feel awkward or not like it. Either way, make sure you don’t pick the wrong moment. 

If you talk to your partner about your hand kink and they get weirded out, then instead of snapping or arguing with them, try to explain or educate them on the matter; you have to understand that it might be something really new for them so it might take some time for them to get the hang of it. And remember that if they don’t give out a positive reaction for the first time, then that doesn’t mean that you have to feel bad about your sexual choices and kinks. Just don’t put too much pressure on them and give them the space they need to think about it and who knows, they might end up developing a thing for Quirofilia too!

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

Q. Why do many women have a hand fetish?

A. Most women are obsessed with the way their hands look. Therefore, they also get attracted to others' hands. 

Q. What does having a hand fetish mean?

A. The sexual fetish for hands is known as hand fetishism or hand partialism. Some examples of this include sexual attraction to fingers, palms, or nails, or an interest to a certain hand activity;

Q. Is being attracted to hands a fetish?

A. yes, getting attracted to hands can be a fetish.

Q. How do you express quirofilia?

A. Quirofilia is most commonly expressed with fingering, handjobs, sucking on the fingers, and licking the palms.

Q. Is it normal to have Quirofilia?

A. yes, it is completely normal to have Quirofilia.

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Chances are, you’re familiar with the average foot fetish. If you go to porn sites or talk to people long enough, you’re likely to find people out in the world who have foot fetishes.

There are other common fetishes as well: hair fetishes, latex fetishes, sock fetishes… the list goes on and on! But one thing I’ve noticed is that many of my followers and clients specifically have hand fetishes, which I, of course, found very interesting!

Why Should we Talk About Hand Fetishes?

Up until recently, I didn’t know all that much about hand fetishes until I got LOTS of comments on my YouTube videos. As it turns out, hand fetishes (at least for people that subscribe to my channel) are fairly common.

Surprisingly, according to research, hand fetishes are some of the least common fetishes, with foot fetishes being one of the most common. Nonetheless, body part fetishes are very prevalent, making up about 33 percent of all fetishes, according to studies.

I actually have a sneaking suspicion that more people get sexual pleasure from hands than they think. Hands might give you arousal, but perhaps you haven’t realized that it’s the hand itself that piques your sexual desire.

A Lot of People Misunderstand the Term “Fetish.”

Your girlfriend might have a closet packed with shoes. She might crack the joke, “I have a total shoe fetish!” Your average American lady that owns shoes does not actually have a shoe fetish.

So what is a fetish, exactly?

A sexual fetish is something your sexual arousal and satisfaction RELIES ON.

In other words, you NEED this object or scenario in order to experience sexual pleasure and reach orgasm.

A kink, on the other hand, is something you find sexually exciting that is also taboo.

For example, if you had a real shoe fetish, you would need shoes in order to get off. Shoes would be your fetish object. That might mean that you need footwear to be around during sex, or that you need a shoe in your mouth, or that you need your partner wearing shoes, or that you have to see someone having sex with that fetish object. That is a fetish.

Why Do People Experience Arousal through Inanimate Objects?

Fetishes are very common. But unfortunately, they’re not well understood. The best guess that we have is that fetishes come from early childhood.

At one point, this inanimate object, body part, or sensation got wired into your brain as being sexually relevant… before you were even conscious of possessing sexual attraction to begin with!

What is a Hand Fetish?

A hand fetish is a fetish that is centered around hands. Men and women alike can have hand fetishes – it doesn’t matter who you are or what’s in your pants, fetishes are equal-opportunity. In fact, when I was researching sexual attraction to hands, I found a LOT of heterosexual fetishist women who were talking about their sexual excitement over male hands. Some ladies love a good man hand, and there’s nothing wrong with that!

What Should You Do If You Have a Hand Fetish?

Are you wondering if you have a fetish? If this is the case, what can you do about it?

Accept yourself!

You are perfect just as you are. It’s GREAT that you have a fetish, no matter if your fetish is centered around bondage, diapers, genitals, sadism, age play, underwear, or anything else.

Humiliation doesn’t belong here. There is absolutely NOTHING to be ashamed of. Self-acceptance is the ACTUAL first step. Love yourself, regardless.

Seek out content/material/pornography/images/videos/stories that excite and arouse your hand fetish.

There’re tons of stuff out there that can satisfy your hand fetish fantasy, and the more you know about yourself, the more you can enjoy your fetish.

The more vids you watch or porn you look at, the more you’ll know about yourself and your own fetish. You might come to realize that you LOVE it when people wash their hands. You might only be turned on if a hand is spanking.

These are two totally different ways of experiencing sexual arousal around hands… and the more you know, the more often you can leverage this magical fetish to reach orgasm!

Share with Your Partner!

How great is it to learn something about yourself, and to know what works for you? Most partners are interested in helping their partner feel sexually satisfied! If you just hit this jackpot of information, you can share that information with your partner … if you feel comfortable doing so.

I personally have never been partnered with someone who had a hand fetish (that I knew about!), but if I had known, I would have been so interested in what I could have done to use my hands in order to sexually satisfy that person during any sexual act! Seriously, how fun is that?!

I hope that if you have a hand fetish, you can share that information with your partner. Hopefully the two of you can make sex fun and incorporate it into your sex life in a way that feels good for everybody and brings you closer together. Sometimes the more info your partner has, the better. The more they know about your fetish, the more pleasure and closeness can exist between partners. The more the fantasy comes to life.

Your Fetish Is Perfectly Normal. But It’s Okay If You Want to Talk to Someone Who Understands.

To recap: a fetish is something that is required for sexual arousal. You can take enjoyment in something, or be interested in something, or even get aroused by something, that isn’t a fetish.

Fetishes are perfectly cool – they are not uncommon, and there’s nothing to feel ashamed about.

Now, if your fetish is causing problems, I highly recommend you go speak to someone about it. For example, if your fetish is getting in the way of you being able to experience a close sexual partnership with someone else, by all means, go see a sex therapist, a sex coach, and seek resources that will help you make that fetish a workable part of your life. If this sounds like you, be sure to apply for a Free Discovery Call with me today. Together, we can unpack your fetish for the best sex of your life!  

But if your fetish isn’t causing you any problems, congratulations! You know something about your sexuality that can make sex even more incredible. Share this information with your partner in a way that feels safe and comfortable and consensual for both of you so that the two of you can involve your fetish in your sexual play, and make sex even more satisfying for both of you.

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