Temperament is the way children respond to the world. Show You can think about your child’s temperament in terms of how much or how little they show of these three qualities:
Children are born with their own temperaments, and you’ve probably been able to describe your child’s temperament since your child was a baby. For example, ‘Jade is very easygoing’ or ‘Luca likes routines’. Differences in temperament explain why your children might be quite different from one another. For example, your children might be more or less reactive, more or less self-regulated, and more or less sociable. Adapting your parenting for your child’s temperamentYou can’t change your child’s temperament. Your child is who they are, and that’s great. But you can nurture your child’s development by adapting your parenting to your child’s temperament. You can help your child develop the positive parts of their temperament. And you can understand the situations that your child might find hard because of their temperament, and help them learn how to handle these situations. Here are some ideas for adapting your parenting to your child’s temperament. Parenting more and less reactive temperamentsMore reactive Reactive children are often also very physically active and might need lots of time outdoors. You can help your child develop by encouraging them to try new sporting activities, for example. But your child might also need help winding down, so bedtime relaxation can be a good idea. Less reactive It’s also important to make sure less reactive children aren’t left out of family discussions. For example, ‘Harper, you haven’t said much. Are you happy with that choice of movie?’ Children who are less reactive might also be less physically active. Your less active child will be happiest with plenty of opportunities to use their fine motor skills, like doing craft or drawing. But you might need to encourage physical activity. Try a trip to the park to collect leaves for a collage, for example. Or make sure you both walk to the library if you can, instead of driving. Parenting more and less self-regulated temperamentsMore self-regulated A child who’s very self-regulated might also be more able to manage their attention. For example, they might be likely to keep going with something until it’s right. They might also be good at coping with setbacks and able to get through tasks like homework without much supervision. But they might be a bit of a perfectionist, so make sure they know that it’s OK to make mistakes. Less self-regulated Parenting more and less sociable temperamentsMore sociable Children with more sociable temperaments are also usually very adaptable and can cope with changes to routines quite easily. It’s great if you can give your adaptable child lots of new experiences, but make sure your child still gets one-on-one time with you. Less sociable If your less sociable child isn’t very adaptable, they’ll like having a regular routine, and might not cope well with changes. This can make it easy for you to plan things around your child’s routine, but your child might also need help coping with changes or transitions. Your child’s temperament might be different from yours. Some parents find that it’s easier to understand and care for a child whose temperament is similar to theirs. For example, if you like predictability, you might find it easy to care for a baby who needs regular sleeps. But if you like being able to do things whenever you want, it might take you a while to get used to your child’s liking for routine. How temperament can changeYou might see some changes in your child’s temperament as your child becomes more mature. This happens as your child’s experiences affect the way your child behaves in different situations. For example, a child who used to be very distracted at school might become an adult who can concentrate well in business meetings. This might be because they’ve developed more motivation as they’ve matured, or because they’ve learned strategies to manage their distraction.
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From: Person-Centered Maternal Emotion Socialization and Child Temperament: Relations to Children’s Emotion Regulation and Anxiety and Depressive Symptoms
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